Searching for Mr. Right. . .

That perfect couple. That perfect relationship. Everyone is jealous of the first but still endlessly looking for the latter. When does that first couple of months of bliss turn into an ever growing relationship or a dead end no hoper where neither person really knows how to let go? I’m beginning to think that I will possibly always be a little bit unlucky in love and finding that special bond with someone that will turn into that ‘perfect’ relationship that all us girls dream about. I tend to get a four or five monther (that’s where the barrier usually falls) who then decides that they are not ready or don’t have time for or simply don’t want a relationship. Then 2 months later, bang, Facebook status update – ‘blah blah and blah blah are now in a relationship’ (big fat red in your face heart). Where did it all go wrong for me and right for another girl, what did she do differently? We can ask ourselves these questions over and over again but the best thing to do is to pick ourselves up and move steadily on to the next suitor.

‘Tough Love’ is an American reality television series where matchmaker Steven Ward and his mother Joann Ward offer relationship counselling, guidance and lessons to a group of women who seem to always be unlucky in love. And, as it always is in American shows and films, everything turns out to be sickly sweet happy in the end. However, should it be ok for other people to get involved in people’s relationships even if they are trying to help them in the long run? This point is a very serious question because it brings the topic round to the issue of friends getting involved, especially if the friend knows both people in the relationship. This is also incredibly tricky if the friend of both is a girl because the girl in the ‘relationship’ will want to talk about everything, a lot, but this may make the friend uncomfortable and in relationships people can become selfish and paranoid. Personally I believe a friend should not voice their opinion until they know the person is truly ready to hear the truth, they may say they are but you can always tell if they’re not. I’m not saying that you have to lie; I’m merely stating that people should maybe dart around the truth a bit if asked but never openly voice their opinion if they haven’t as this could honestly lead to potential disaster for both parties.

Will I ever find love? Will I ever meet Mr. Right? Will I ever meet that perfect guy that loves me for I am, and as my friend said ‘make me want to cook for him and let him touch my face’? We can trouble ourselves with these tiresome yet popular questions but it’s not going to get us any closer to the answer we want or need to know. So to conclude this little blog post, take each challenge as it comes, make mistakes, get hurt, learn from mistakes, try not to make the same ones again (but if you do it doesn’t matter) and take each day with small steps and you’ll find what you’re looking for eventually.